Here Comes The Fight! 4 Of The Biggest Wedding Arguments




Once the initial excitement and thoughts of “Oh my God, I’m getting married!” have started to wear off, you begin to realise how difficult planning a wedding actually is. And as the big day approaches, tensions can start to fray and arguments are much more likely to occur between you and those involved in the planning. To help avoid these time-consuming and unhelpful screaming matches, we are going to talk about four of the biggest wedding arguments and some ways that you can side-step them.


Your Groom Isn’t Helping
Perhaps the most common argument is that your groom simply doesn’t seem to be getting involved with anything. And while it is generally the brides that take the lead, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be getting any support at all. Try having an up-front conversation about the parts of the day that they want to get involved in and which ones they are happy to leave to you. Of course, he may not visit the bridal boutique with you, but he can still help with other important decisions like the food, photography and music. And also try setting aside some time when wedding chats are off-limits so that you can still enjoy the other aspects of your relationship.


Your Parents Want to Take Over Your Day
Even though your parents may be contributing financially towards your wedding day, that doesn’t mean that they should have complete control over all decisions. Of course, you also want to include them at the same time. The best solution is to sit down together to openly discuss your budget, your wedding wish list, and how the two things match up with one another. While there are some areas which you feel have to be done your way, there are plenty of others which you may be willing to compromise on.


Your Invite List is Getting Too Long
Unfortunately, when you are on a limited budget, you may not be able to invite everyone that you want. So, start by writing down a list of everyone who could possibly attend. Now is the time that you are going to have to make some difficult decisions. Make sure that the compromises are fair between you and your partner. And try to limit the number of ‘family friends’ of your parents who are taking up space at the wedding even though you haven’t seen them in 10 years!


You Can’t Agree on a Honeymoon Destination
After the wedding has finished, now is the time to go on the trip of a lifetime together. But while you may have your heart set on an adventure holiday, he may prefer to kick back on the beach. Try to settle on a destination which gives you the best of both worlds so that you can both enjoy an unforgettable experience.


So, now that you can see the biggest wedding arguments coming, hopefully, you feel more ready to deal with them if (when) they do happen!
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18 comments

  1. This did make me giggle at first because this is literally every single thing my friend has said to me who is getting married this year! I sent her the link straight away and she said "see I'm not crazy, its not just me" �� Love it x

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  2. What a great post, I think the main argument we had was the guest list and who we are inviting and who we are not, and then chasing up answers x

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  3. hahaha! weddings are horror for me. In terms of planning. My biggest issue was my lack of desire of wedding dress, I felt like crying all the time I kept hearing that I just have to have it and 'you will regret it'.

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  4. Haha yes! The invite list is the hardest thing in the world! We really had some big family fall ours over it, mainly because my in laws interfered!!

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  5. I'm currently engaged and, fortunately, not had many disagreements about the wedding just yet! That said, the point about guests is spot on - so tough to cut people out, and do it fairly, but needs must! Good post

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  6. I love the list but I think there's one thing missing that ends up in the biggest arguments - the budget. It's either too much to be sustainable or not enough to do everything you want to.

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  7. Planning a wedding can get really crazy and it's important that you avoid conflict at all costs. I agree with everything you said though. These can be reasons for people to fight over wedding plans.

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  8. This is why I'm all for eloping lol! I'd rather just have a simple beach wedding with only a few guests - no fancy dresses, no fancy foods, none of that

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    1. Right??? My girlfriend is always trying to blow everything up to make it as large and elaborate as possible. I'm totally in your camp. Simple. Beach. Wedding. Nothing crazy. Good food, a little dancing, a little booze, a few people. Thats so much more meaningful to me.

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  9. The only we had during preparing our wedding was my in laws. They didn't really anything, lol! We are a team with my hubby thankfully!

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  10. Weddings are so stressful for everyone involved! I'm sure it's going to be tough when I have mine someday lol

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  11. Twelve years ago, my husband and I just wanted to be together forever, our biggest disagreement was about the wedding itself. I wanted a cruise destination wedding and he wanted all of his family members present. I compromised and we're happily married today.

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  12. Weddings - Parents should not take over and this is about two people who love each other - their choices and decisions should be final x

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  13. Weddings and weedding planning can certainly be pretty tough on the most solid relationships, but I guess that is a way to learn about your soon to be life partner.

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  14. I can imagine these issues can cause fights between some couples, but I must say my husband and I had a great time planning our wedding! He was happy to let me do the bulk of the planning (which I loved) but was also there to help make decisions together when I needed him to.

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  15. Aw man! Trim that guest list for sure. My wedding was mostly my parents' friends. I am determined not to do that to my kids, although it was a lovely time, and my parents have nice friends, lol.

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  16. I was engaged (and then called it off) so I've never been married but the wedding seems so stressful it's almost like a final test to the bride and groom!

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  17. The wedding planning part seems so stressful. You have budgets and opinions of everyone. I'm sure it can be super overwhelming.

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