Keeping A Good Relationship Good

It happens to the majority of us. At first everything is exciting and electrifying. You do fun things together and spend as much time as possible in each others company. Sadly, this does fizzle out for many of us. Relationships don't just grow on their own.

I had my own personal experience of this very recently. Although we're planning a wedding and things are still very rosy between us, I noticed we weren't spending much time together and neither of us were making much of an effort. We seemed to just pass each other daily and utter a few words. I guess life just got in the way. We both work full time, have a home to keep, a puppy to chase around after, social commitments and general adulty things to be getting on with. Date nights seemed to have vanished, I no longer planned anything, he wasn't showing me much attention, I guess we were like flat mates in love! I guess this had happened gradually and neither of had really noticed until very recently.

I knew this wasn't us, we've never been like that. Although we're not overly romantic, we've always appreciated each other and the time we spend together. I knew something had to change and I don't mean big changes. Little steps can have the biggest impact, for example instead of watching your favourite tv show, why not jump in the car and go for a drive together? Sometimes the most simple things in life can make you the happiest. It's not about big grand gestures, it's about spending time with the people you love, doing the things you enjoy. This applies to family and friends too, not just relationships.

Relationships and marriages need constant effort. You can never stop taking an interest in your partner or showing them love, respect and attention, in my eyes those things are worth a million times more than extravagant gifts and treats. Yeah we all like to be spoilt but I prefer to be showered with love and affection, you can keep your cash.

Even date nights don't have to be expensive, there are so many cost effective things you can do together, sometimes without even leaving the house. Movie nights at home are one of our favourite things to do. Yummy comfort food, cosy pyjamas, candles and a good movie, what is not to love?

Ask yourself, when was the last time you genuinely made an effort for a loved one and actually put some thought into something you know they'd appreciate or enjoy? I bet a few will struggle, I know I did.

I think it's important to put things into perspective and prioritize what's important. I'm sure your shopping spree can wait until another day, the sale will be on again, your favourite tv show will be repeated and your work finished hours ago, leave it there. Go and spend quality time with your nearest and dearest. Make time to be happy, remember to smile and never ever stop trying.

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  1. I completely agree and I have been in the position you described before. We decided to do something about it and stated setting aside one night a week as date night. We have children and life can be so hectic but we have never not done date night. It is a priority for both of us and it is also the thing I swear has kept us together over the years!

  2. Well said. We should genuinely made an effort for a loved one and actually put some thought and effort into it. The fruits will surely bear!

  3. I so much agree with you, relationships and marriage need consistent true efforts and small initiatives to keep the spark alive. Loved the way you've put it!

  4. One of the advice my parents gave me when I got married was to never stop dating my husband. It keeps the sparks alive and the relationship healthy.

  5. Hey I also live in Cheshire (not now though as I'm doing college in Transylvania haha)

    And I also agree, the simple things are what makes the whole relationship amazing!

  6. In my opinion, a good relationship remains good is when friendship is alive. It is very important to prioritize and give time to your relationship. :)

  7. Good relationship starts with understanding and giving appropriate time and space to each other. This is what i believe.

  8. As date night grows in popularity, couples are finding that it works. I believe that relationships need effort to keep them alive and so taking time to communicate, go out, and have fun is a great idea


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