Top Tips For Online Dating

Online dating has become much more popular over recent years, not long ago it was a bit of a taboo subject and people were quite shy (some even embarrassed) to admit that they had an online dating profile or were going on a date with someone they'd met online. I never really understood why but I think people are slowly starting to keep up with the times and realise that in 2017, people don't have the time nor interest to go and meet people the ''traditional'' way.

Online dating is much more convenient and requires less effort I guess, you don't need to shave your legs and spend 3 days choosing an outfit to send a few messages. I also think it creates more excitement if the messages progress to a first date because it's like a big bowl of bubbling tension. You can get to know each other, talk on the phone, add each other on social media etc and get a feel for the other person, I think it makes first dates much more relaxed and you kind of already feel like you know the person, in a way I guess you do.

Now, most of you know I'm no longer in the dating scene and I'm actually planning a wedding, thanks to Facebook! I'm one of online datings success stories, my love story literally started with a friend request many moons ago.

Recent Studies show that 1 in 5 relationships now start online.
81% of people lie about their height, age and figure when creating an online dating profile.
71% of people believe in love at first sight - this is music to my ears!
Online dating profiles are made up of 47.6% women and 52.4 men.
A survey showed people are more attracted to profiles with blonde hair when searching online dating websites - I still think brunettes rule!

So, if you're online dating and feeling a bit fed up, feeling like you're not gaining anything from it or even if you're a complete novice and are contemplating creating your very own online dating profile, I thought it would be helpful to share a few of what I deem as the most important unwritten rules of online dating.

1. Make sure you have several photo's on your profile. A nice flattering shot of you alone should ideally be your profile photo, the first photo that others will see when browsing. Now, I definitely wouldn't upload a photo onto the internet unless I was comfortable and looked at least half presentable, it's so important to be honest with your pictures. Your vibe will attract your tribe, don't upload something that looks nothing like you, it just saves heartache and disappointment. In other words, step away from the filters!

2. Be honest on your profile. So many people write the same thing in their About Me description ''I don't know what to say, I've never done this before, I'm just looking to make friends''... it's old, it's modest and it's very boring! You want to be yourself, sell yourself in fact, what do you love about yourself? What do others compliment you on? Show off your sense of humour. Draw the line though, no one likes a bragger! And guys, if you're 5ft nothing, that's fine! Don't lie and say you're 6'3, you'll only regret it.

3. Following on from number 2, I truly believe honesty is the best policy, however, there's also a time and place. The first few messages is not the time nor the place to discuss your mid life crisis, crazy ex or any other issues you're facing. It can scare a lot of people away if you're too open too quick. It's all about finding the balance.

4. Don't expect too much. Many people sign themselves up thinking they will find Mr/Miss Right on their first browse but it doesn't work like that. If something is meant to be then it will happen, not always over night. Sometimes it takes weeks, months or even years. There's no need to rush. Expect nothing then anything else is a bonus. Also keep your options open, don't set your heart of a 6'1 hunk with a 6 pack and a 6 figure bank balance. Get to know someone and then decide if you'd like to progress, being closed minded will limited your chances. Again, it's about balance, keep your standards high but not too high! Be realistic.

There are so many more unwritten rules about online dating but these are my favourite and the ones I think will make a huge difference to peoples online experiences.

It doesn't matter if you're looking for love, friendship or even if you're looking for something more fun and.. erm... yeah, fun lol then there's adult dating.

The choice is unreal, there are so many apps and websites now, some have better reviews than others, some are free and some aren't, it really all depends where you are and what you're looking for. I've listed a few below that you may be interested in if you are ''getting back out there'' as they say.

Devon dating site
Gloucester dating site
over 50s dating
Kent dating site
Oxford dating site

I'd love to hear from you if you've got any stories about online dating or any hints and tips!

(This is a sponsored posts however all words and opinions are of my own)

30 comments

  1. Nice tips shared, but I would like to know is online dating safe? I mean you have not met a person and know him virtually (only the things that he want to show you). How safe would that be ?

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    1. There is definitely risks involved, I totally get that but it's all about making the right decisions, adding them on social media is a biggie I think, that way you can see how they act with people ''real life'', see if they have friends and family in their lives etc.

      I guess it's the same with a guy in the club, how do you know he's safe? I guess it's a risk we all take but just in different situations.

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  2. I am so glad I am not looking to date! It is so hard to tell if people you meet online are who they say they are! Some good tips here

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    1. I'm glad I'm outta the dating game too! The older I get the less patience I seem to have! Not sure I could do the whole dating thing again lol

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  3. I could definetly online dating! Three of my friends found their love via it dating! Just the problem is for many it becomes a game and are addicted to it. Like chatting with others girl even when you are in relationship.

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    1. Aw it's lovely that your friends had such good experiences! Online dating is one of those things, a bit like marmite, you either love it or hate it

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  4. Nice tips! In my own opinion it's a risk to do online dating, for me it's just for fun not for serious, but anyway there's a lot who got married through online dating. - Captain macoy

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    1. It's definitely personal preference and a lot of misconceptions can put people off. I guess you'll never know until you try. If you prefer the traditional way that's cool too!

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  5. My best friend did online dating for a while. She definitely met some frogs, but she also has made some really awesome friends. Hasn't met mr. right yet, but watching her go through this experience has definitely been positive. She's had a great time!

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    1. Aw that's lovely! Making more friends is never a bad thing! Good for her! Shame about the frogs though!

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  6. I don't think I could do online dating. Thankfully, we don't have much of an ''online dating scene'' where I live, but I imagine the risks and it creeps me out. I'm definitely not against it and I have friends that have met their s/o through dating apps, but it's just not my cup of tea

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    1. Totally agree, its completely down to personal preferences. What works for one, won't work for all

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  7. The statistics I found really interesting. 1 in 5 relationships from online dating - that's 20%! Plus 81% of people lie on their profile! You would have to ask why anyone would do this if they are serious about finding someone. Eventually you will meet and be shown up as a bit of a fraud! Not a good way to start. Great tips though to help people who are serious about finding someone.

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    1. I know right, I think people assume they won't meet anyone but I guess they find it tough if they really click with someone. Honesty is key!

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  8. Majority of us now say online dating is a great way to meet people, and the online dating game has lost much of its stigma. Many aspects of our society have transformed due to smartphones and the advancement of digital technology including on how people are seeking out and establishing romantic relationships.
    From: Calleigh Keibler

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    1. It's definitely become more of the ''norm'' now I think, people of all ages are doing it

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  9. Great advice. I think dating on line has become the norm these days to fit in around peoples busy lives. It's a great idea as long as everyone is honest and stays safe.

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    1. I totally agree, safety is sooo important

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  10. I can't believe that many people lie on their profiles. That's an instant heck no for me. Pass. Anyone that is open to be honest from the get go is for me.

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    1. I agree with you, honesty is so important but I guess people use online dating as some sort of barrier, who knows

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  11. I have never done online dating and I'm not into it anyway, happily married. But, I can see this post to be super informational for anyone who is looking to find someone through online dating platforms.

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    1. Thank you, hopefully it can help others have the happiness you have one day

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  12. Haha I am definitely not blonde but yes brunettes do rule! It is very important to be honest on your profile. I would also make the effort to engage . There are so many people that message me saying Hi and I don't reply because it shows no effort x

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  13. Great tips for anyone thinking about online dating! Its definitely becoming the main way people seem to meet their other halves these days. I got put on an online dating site when I was a teen by a Family member who decided it was high time I got a boyfriend, it was just creepy though as I only got contacted by men from specific countries who were 30+ and asking me to "live with them an be their queen" genuinely that's what they wrote. I didn't go on any dates from the site.

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  14. It still amazes me what technology can do. But with that said I'm happy to live in the era of the online dating rage. While I know friends who've met their soulmates online, it isn't always rainbows. I once had a girl accuse me of "catfishing" her simply because my name on my online profile wasn't actually my real name. Can you believe that? Even her friends agreed she was overreacting..funny side note...she storm off, but then eventually called back to apologize later that night. For me; however, the damage was already done.

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  15. I never thought online dating would actually work and become popular, but every day happy couples prove me wrong. Great tips!

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  16. I always admire people who are willing to make an extra effort to improve their life. It takes courage to put yourself out there. I like your advice of not expecting too much. It's always a good advice not to have any expectations and just enjoy meeting a new person.

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  17. Honesty is the best policy. And oversharing ends up causing problems in the end. But what I have really noticed is that people who are attracted to you, seem to throw out all the rules and don't care about the rules (except maybe the honesty one). When you are attracted to someone you stop worrying about how things should go, and just let things happen. That's what is supposed to happen in the first place.

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  18. I really don't trust online dating. But yes they are all over and everyone is up for it. I have no exciting story to tell you about my online dating but yes I tried it sometimes. But my feelings for it is always like time pass and nothing serious. I believe the one who is meant for you will one day pop up from nowhere and comes right in front of you out of no where. And you will be like that's my girl.

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  19. Though i never had online date in my life but sometime it looks easier to find people online but tips you shared are so helpful for people like me who never had online dating exp before.

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