5 Wedding Mistakes To Avoid

Now, as most of you will know, planning a wedding is not easy! It's not all about trying on pretty dresses and tasting samples of delicious wedding cake. It's months (sometimes years) of brainstorming, planning, saving, worrying, researching and losing sleep.

I've compiled a list of the 5 most popular blunders that brides wish they had of avoided!

1 - Skipping a wedding videographer. I know videographers can be pricey and you have photographs to last forever but in my opinion, nothing beats a videographer. Most videographers will film all of the important parts of the day and put together some beautiful videos. There's usually a 4-5 minute video for you to share on social media and then a longer 30 (ish) minute video which highlights your best bits. Videographers often capture the bits you missed or forgot about. They're lovely to have for memories and I for one will definitely be hiring a videographer next year for our wedding.

2 - Picking the bridal party too early. I see so many complaints about this. People get engaged, set a date and then ask people to be their best man/bridesmaid etc. They later regret this decision when they realise the person in question isn't interested in their wedding, they show no support and they usually just drift away and avoid all wedding talk. The bridal party need to be reliable and trustworthy. It's all well and good making new friends but your bridal party should be people you've known a while, someone you know you can trust. Always think twice before rushing in and popping the question. I started with 5 bridesmaids, I now only have 2!

3 - Lack of entertainment. Lots of people try and cut corners when planning and that's fine. I understand most of us are on a budget and need to cover the essentials first but you need to realistically organise your day. I've known brides not think about this and then have to deal with 50 guests who got bored and went into town drinking because the bride and groom didn't provide any kind of entertainment during the daytime and evening turnaround. This is usually 2-3 hours so always make sure there's somewhere for your guests to sit with access to drinks. You don't have to break the bank to create a nice atmosphere.

4 - Under catering is a huge issue. Many people assume that not everyone invited will turn up. People then over invite and cater for less. They're in a pretty awkward situation when most guests turn up and not enough food is available. It's not a good impression to give out on your or your chosen venue. My advice is to get RSVP's back first and then final the numbers for the catering. Weddings are not the time for guessing games.

5 - Trying to please everyone. I rant on about this a lot because it really annoys me. People are so opinionated when it comes to weddings and often try and have their way and influence your plans. Remember that it's a wedding, a celebration of commitment and love. Not a people pleasing party.

I hope you found these tips helpful for any upcoming events you're planning I'd love to hear some tips from you below.

34 comments

  1. I found this very useful tips. Trying to please everyone and Under catering are common problem in all marriage. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. Great tips, I love this "Remember that it's a wedding, a celebration of commitment and love. Not a people pleasing party".

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  3. I think it's even if you have to spend a bit more money, it's better to over-cater than to under-cater. You don't want to be at a wedding where you run out of food while there's still 60 people on the buffet line

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  4. I didn't even think about the different problems that could arise and simple ways to avoid them. I won't be wedding planning for a long time but hopefully I'll remember these tips when I get around to it.

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  5. Some good ones I have to say .x

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  6. Very true! I went to a wedding last weekend and the entertainment was spot on. We had a magician entertaining us between ceremony and food, and a saxophonist in the early evening before it was disco time!

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  7. Yes, so many things to think about. This post just made me glad that I eloped and did the Vegas thing! Would do it again tomorrow!. Not only was it way more affordable, there was no stressing about wedding prep and all that. I think the quality of the marriage is waaaay more important than the wedding itself.

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  8. I really like the last point on trying to please everyone. That happens a lot in Indian weddings and we end up spending so much money just to please everyone. Spot on!

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  9. I can see how the areas you listed could be a huge problem. If a couple remembers that it is there day and surround themselves with individuals who love them and mission is to help make the day positive and memorable.

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  10. I think "trying to please everyone" is a lesson you can transfer to many aspects of life, not just weddings. But there is some really useful advice here for prospective brides x

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  11. Yeah, I remember having to get extra food somehow because we were not fully prepared for the amount of people who would show up to the reception. Definitely make sure you have enough for all.

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  12. Planning weddings must be so stressful but I agree with you about choosing people you trust. My friend's sister was disappointed with the person she had chosen as a maid of honour and wished that she asked her sister instead who she felt was more reliable x

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  13. Ranting is actually part of every wedding. You just can't please everyone and we should learn that! Being from India, wedding is a complete 2 months process with many functions and each of them must be perfect. The points you stated are really among those points which must be on the checklist, no matter what!

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  14. And they are such easy things to overlook too. That is a great point and will share with some of my friends getting married.

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  15. Absolutely - I agree with #1 so much. We thought it was too expensive, but I wish I would have just had a friend record it, even if it wasn't a professional No going back now, unfortunately.

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  16. These are real problems. Under catering is a blunder. It would sadden me to every extent if my guests had to leave empty stomach

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  17. I am not on wedding stage yet, but I will definitely keep these in mind. I think I can agree to catering since a lot of people love eating food and especially in big parties, they eat more! haha

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  18. I totally agree with you. Specially for number three (3), Lack of entertainment - Planner and coordinator really should bring their creativity up for guest to be involved and this special day be more meaningful.

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  19. The last on your list hits me. You're correct, you can't please everyboday. even in a big and grand wedding there might be a chance that some people will say their opinion. So for me, grand or simple you must just enjoy the day because it's one of the important memories of our life

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  20. We had a really small wedding so avoided most problems of catering etc. However, I wish we had a videographer but it was 10 years ago and they weren't that common then.

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  21. These are some great tips. I've stood up in a lot of wedding and these are great, especially the picking your bridal party too early. You never know what will happen with wedding drama.

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  22. Top tips ! I'm trting to avoiding panicking or becoming bridezilla lol .

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  23. Top tips ! I'm trting to avoiding panicking or becoming bridezilla lol .

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  24. Awesome tips and very important too. Especially the no trying to please everyone! It is your day and you should enjoy it, not worry about others. Thank you for sharing!

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  25. I'm totally booking a videographer that's for sure, and about the entertainment, that's what stresses me the most. I really want to make this like a big party, so everyone will remember that day and have fun! Awesome tips girl! Really!

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  26. it's true picking the bridle party too early is a mistake i made in my first marriage and I ended up telling the bridesmaid she could not be one in the end...the best decision i made and i learnt for the second time around.

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  27. If I had my way, I would have gotten married in my jeans, white tee, and my chuck taylors. Weddings should be simple and solemn. It is about two people exchanging vows, not about a big party. Save the money instead and use it for a downpayment for a house.

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  28. Currently engaged so will have to start looking at good tips like these

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  29. Totally agree on all of these! However, how come a weeding planner wasn't here?

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  30. Some great tips, my partner & I have been together 17 years, 2 kids and still not married because whenever we try and sort it we get far too stressed trying to please everyone!

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  31. Relevant topics. My Best friend got married many years ago, I can recall us watching her wedding video not long after the event. It was lovely, there was a part where the newly married couple walked along the beach which was alongside the wedding reception venue :- It looked so romantic, as only the couple strolling along the beach in their wedding outfits. As guests all within the venue. Also allows the couple to see the event in it's totality :- variety of aspects, as such an emotional day for some, as a large gathering, family get together, etc.

    Yes, Please provide Entertainment for the guests. I have attended some weddings in which the photographer has taken, or seemed to have taken an eternity with the Wedding Party. Some light, easy-listening background music would ease the time away.

    Weddings are a Celebration. There are Traditions :- Though I believe much discussion, Respect, etc, should be given and exchanged whenever possible. As it is the joining in holy matrimony of the couple. Yes, ideally family and friends should be involved, but much consideration is needed. There are some people who may seem to want what they want. How about considering what is best for the couple, the day, etc. Often there can be the dilemma of children or no children at wedding. Again discuss, as well as discussing and ensuring time out for children. Busy day:- They will likely need a rest / sleep. Also they need some activities, and need to be well cared / catered for.

    Best Wishes! Hope you, your partner and guests etc enjoy the Wedding.

    Rachel Craig

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  32. My biggest regret was trying to please everyone around me, and ended up forgetting what we really wanted in the beginning.

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  33. If I'm throwing a party to celebrate an occasion it is just that, a celebration, not a party to please everyone. The only things that were important for our wedding for example were; food, booze, and dj. Anything else we considered a bonus. Wedding at registry office with closest family and friends followed by a knees up with more friends who we couldn't have at the wedding. Simple. No need to spend a fortune as long as you enjoy it that's all that matters.

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